Relationship:
Notes on Love, Mutual Respect, Boundaries, Marriage, and Divorce
by
A. William Benitez
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BLURB:
When
I decided to write this book on relationship, my wife Barbara was
surprised and cautioned me by saying that she would not dare write
such a book because it was such a varied topic with so many nuances.
That scared me because she is certainly more qualified to write about
relationship than I am. I hesitated for a while but then I jumped in.
I
have written about relationship before but was not satisfied with the
results but now, for some unknown reason, I felt ready to tackle this
huge topic and feel good about this book. I don’t see myself as an
expert on relationship but I definitely have a lot to share that may
be helpful to others.
The
book contains ten chapters including What is Love, What is A Good
Relationship, Fostering and Nurturing Relationships, Harming
Relationships, Mutual Respect, Boundaries, Marriage, Breakups and
Divorce, Helpful Tips, Final Thoughts, plus a Preface and an
Introduction.
Excerpt;
Being in
a happy, healthy, intimate relationship is only possible if you
relate to yourself in a happy and healthy way. How can you possibly
relate comfortably with others if you’re not at peace with
yourself. Are you comfortable with your everyday life or just trying
to project an image you believe others expect of you? If you know
yourself, and are comfortable with this knowledge, then chances are
you are a good householder even if you’ve never heard the term
before.
The term
good householder seems to relate to someone who cares for a house or
home but that’s only a small part of its meaning. I first heard the
term used years ago while attending some spiritual classes, and it
immediately peaked my interest. The actual meaning relates to fully
taking on the responsibilities of daily life without dependence on
others, and that has stuck with me all my life. It is the basis for
an excellent question to ask yourself when making important life
decisions. “Are my actions now those of a good householder?”
Taking the few moments to ask yourself this questions and answer it
honestly could make a significant difference in your life.
What is
the full meaning of good householder? From my readings on the term,
and my own feelings, there is a clear and simple definition. A good
householder is a person who is complete, secure, and able to take
care of himself. He is not dependent on any other person for his
personal, day-to-day survival, and that includes a partner in an
intimate relationship. Don’t let the definition confuse you into
believing you can’t be part of interdependence within a healthy
relationship. Nor does it necessarily mean that you want to be alone.
It does mean that you can get along fine alone if necessary or if
that’s the path you choose.
AUTHOR
Bio and Links:
I spent
most of my adult life self-employed after being born into the
construction business. I worked with my father and then spent more
than ten years as a general contractor, building homes and commercial
buildings in Tampa, Florida.
For more
than twelve years, I worked as a government official running housing
related programs for the City of Tampa and then operated a publishing
and consulting business on housing rehabilitation. During this time,
I testified on this subject before the Housing Sub Committee of the
U.S. Congress.
For
several years, I operated an active woodworking business in Tampa,
Florida and then in Austin, Texas. My cabinets, furniture, and
carvings can be found in private homes, businesses, churches, and
public buildings in both cities.
In 1996,
I began working for the Hyatt Regency in Austin, Texas and am now the
IT Manager.
In 2007
I established a new writing and publishing business called Positive
Imaging, LLC and now write and publish how to books.
My first
marriage ended after 17 years and I remained single for 14 years
before marrying Barbara. We have been married over twenty-three years
and share a happy and healthy relationship. We now live in Austin,
Texas.
I
learned a great deal from my first marriage and other relationships.
However, my years with Barbara have been my most valuable learning
and growing experience and definitely the happiest years of my life.
All the
information in this book is based on my first-hand experiences, a
small amount of research, and discussions with other couples. I
sincerely hope that you will find it of real value in your own
relationships. If you have any questions or comments, please contact
me at:
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Thanks, they are all based on personal experience over many years.
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